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Dear Mary,
I wanted to ask you a question. Do you think having constants dreams about an ex-lover means that, deep inside, I am still in love with him? The reason I ask you this question is because I have been dreaming about my ex on a constant basis for the past eight years. This person is no longer in my life and the last time I had contact with him was seven years ago when we said our last goodbye to each other. The first couple of years after we broke up, I was heartbroken, but after a while, I got better and I even got married and had children. He has also moved on and is now married as well. The problem is that I continue dreaming about him and in my dreams, it appears as if I was madly in love with him, which makes me feel bad for my husband. My husband has no idea about this and I am afraid that if I share this with him, that he may think that I am still in love with my ex. Why is this happening to me?
The Ex-Lover
Dear Ex-Lover,
What I think is happening to you is that probably you never had a real closure in your relationship with this person. Or, it could also be that you still have feelings for this person. Who knows! The thing here is that you need to understand that these kind of dreams are very common and, in most cases, very inexplicable so do not worry too much about it. If you are in a loving and fulfilling relationship, my advice for you is to just let it be and not to allow these dreams to interfere with your life. Dreams are just that – dreams. Enjoy them, but do not let them control your life. The fact that you guys moved on with your respective lives means that the relationship was not meant to be. Just accept that and continue enjoying your life with your family. At the end, that is what really matters. And again – do not pay too much attention to those dreams because, unfortunately, there is nothing you can do to make them stop. Just enjoy them while they last and continue with your life the way you had it planned.
With Love, Mary
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